It’s hard to believe that most people’s first sexual experience nowadays is with x - rated movies. The years of hiding magazines under mattresses now seem ancient since Internet x - rated material is so easy to access.
X - rated movie addiction is a real issue in today’s society.
There are places you can go online that cater to basically anything you need. It might seem harmless when you’re viewing it by yourself, but what happens when you find out your boyfriend has been doing it behind your back? X - rated movie addiction is a real issue in today’s society and it has to do with so much more than getting off. It affects almost all aspects of your love life as soon as it gets out of hand. Whether you realize it or not, x - rated movies do interesting things to our brains in terms of associating sex with emotional connection.
We inadvertently train ourselves that x - rated movies are the ultimate universe at which every gay man should strive. Knowing that your boyfriend is clicking away when you’re not home can make anyone feel insecure about their relationship, which is why it’s important to investigate sooner rather than later.
You can’t be surprised that your boyfriend masturbates - it’s something nearly every human being does to release happy chemicals in the brain. It relieves stress, burns calories, and has even helped with depression. But there’s a difference between getting off and going online
As a culture, gay men worship gay adult movie stars. It’s evident everywhere we go - prototypes are displayed in magazines, billboards, and promo flyers. Personally, I think gay adult movie stars were the catalyst behind unrealistic standards of beauty we have today. I also don’t blame you for taking your boyfriend’s addiction personally.
As someone who’s dated a man with addiction issues, I can tell you the first thing you need to do is realize that you are not the problem. He’s not watching x - rated movies because you’re not fulfilling his needs nor is he "so disgusted" with your body that it no longer turns him on. He’s trained his brain to be mentally stimulated by his laptop that he’s unconsciously fallen victim to its control - the same can said about nearly every addiction we know.
The only thing you can do is to try and wean him off it by helping him acknowledge the fact that it’s a problem. And it is a problem.
Like all addictions, they start with habits.
Some brains are wired differently, making it impossible to quantify their limits. They go on and on and on with virtually no discipline or acknowledgement of stopping. It’s so much a part of their daily routine they no longer know how to live without it. This tricks brains into thinking they need x - rated movies in order to have an effective climax. This is when things get a bit complicated. The more we tell our brains how to perceive things, the easier it is for it to do it without us having to tell it.
Sex and the gay male’s brain is pretty complicated when it comes to x - rated materials.
Gay x - rated material isn’t evil nor is it meant to come between you and your man, but it can cause heavy friction in the relationship. Any time an outside force threatens the stability of your partnership there will be an undeniable sense of protectiveness - a need to supply efforts to reaffirm the bond you share and hope to God it’s strong enough to override the outside force. On the outskirt, x- rated movies doesn’t seem to do much, but when it starts to change the nature of your intimacy, that’s a sacrifice you shouldn’t be willing to make.
It’s so much more than sex – it’s worship, idolization, and associations of unfair standards. He wants to be a part of the fantasy world he’s creating, but you need to understand that there’s more than enough room for you inside too. Weaning him off the x - rated materials might be difficult, but it’s a hell of a lot easier than beating yourself up about it when he’s not looking.
Take matters into your own hands and try to work through it together, believe me, he’ll be grateful for it.
